Tips to Write Your Wedding Vows
Tips for Writing Your Vows
Writing your wedding vows can be exciting, yet seem overwhelming, at the same time. Your vows are an opportunity to express your hopes and dreams for your future together, and reflect on your unique relationship and shared values.
You want to say the right thing, and you want to say it beautifully.
But where do you even begin? Here are a few tips to help you get started.
1. Agree on the format and the tone with your partner.
Give each other a guideline of how long your vows are going to be and a general format. For example: An intro, promise statements, and a story. Decide on how you want your vows to come across: humorous, poetic, romantic, or a combination. Finally, do you want to share them with each other or keep them a secret until the wedding day?
2. Write down thoughts about your relationship.
Think about how you felt when you first met, what made you fall in love and when did you know you wanted to spend the rest of your lives together. Imagine that you are writing a love letter to your partner and let the thoughts flow.
3. Come up with one or two, or many, promises.
Vows are promises or declarations of the future. These are the promises you make to stay together for better or worse, and to face the future together. They are the promises that say, “I promise to love you, support you, and respect you.
“I promise to ______________.”
“I vow to ______________.”
“I commit to ______________.”
“I will always ______________.”
Be sincere, authentic, and have fun. You may want to include something humorous. Example, I promise to unclog the drain, even though you have long hair.
4. Include a short story about your love life.
Everyone loves to hear how you first met, even if they have heard it before. This is your opportunity to tell your love story or a fun adventure that you shared.
5. Set some goals and wrap it up
Think about your goals as a couple. Share your hopes, dreams, and what you are looking forward to together. From all your notes, organize and write a rough draft, edit, and reprint a fresh copy. You may find asking a friend to listen and provide feedback will help.
6. Practice reading out loud.
This is the best way to prepare. Listen to yourself and practice your delivery for pauses and intonations. At the altar, remember to stand straight, look at your spouse, and speak calmly.
Your officiant will be there to guide and support you. If you do not have an officiant, please reach out to me. I would love to be part of your special day and make your ceremony as unique as you.
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